Preparing for Absences

The last day of school fell on an early June day in 1960 for Miss Palmer’s 5th Grade Class at Hamden Hall.  The Class members were: John Bassett, Sarah Beebe, Charles Clark, Emily Evans, Stephen Gant, Jean Gaylord, Margaret Gaylord, Gary Hopson, Mary-Austin Humphrey, Elizabeth Learned, John Marra, Francine Matas, Carole McDonnell, Duncan Moffit, Gary Moss, Naomi Plakins, Kathy Talalay, Jane Wang & Jimmy Winston.

The last day of school was the best.  Summer vacation to begin… and to begin without the precursor final exams that take place in the later grades.  Exams that cause anxiety and worry, which in turn adds to a sense of relief to the last day for those higher grades.

But in the 5th Grade there is nothing to deflect the joy in beginning the long vacation… no concern for how your grades affected your academic record and impacted your chances for getting into college, or when you would have to begin a summer job.  No, in the 5th Grade it’s all sunshine, smiles, riding your bike thru the neighborhood, swimming in the Sound, eating watermelon in the backyard and spitting the pits all over the lawn, running under the sprinkler, movies on rainy days.  For someone who was 10 years of age how could it get better?

Hamden Hall was a unique school… a Private Country Day School — Kindergarten thru Twelve.  Sure there were Private Boarding Schools that handled the upper grades, like Hotchkiss in Lakeville.  There were Private Day Schools that handled the lower grades, like Foote School in New Haven… and there were even Private Day Schools that just had the upper grades like Hopkins (a school, by the by, that pre-dates the founding of Yale).  Hamden Hall? We had it all… diapers to diploma.  And Co-Educational, too… in an era of single gender private upper schools.

And like other Private (non-Parochial) Schools, we did not have students from a specific neighborhood… students did not even come from the same city… we were from all over the place.  You expect that at Hotchkiss… “Biff” from Grosse Pointe, the “Lynch Man” from Lake Forest, “Trey” from Sewickley.  But this was 5th Grade at Hamden Hall… and for 10 year olds we were scattered to the winds.

The last day of school you’re incredibly happy.  Hell, you’re a 6th Grader now!  You say good-bye to your classmates… “see you next year!”  In the school world September represents next year… “have a great summer!”

A far different scenario would have taken place at Edgewood School — the Public Elementary School a half mile from my home on Alston Avenue.  The excitement would have been much the same.  “Hurray!  Summer is here!  No school!”  But there would have been no need to say “see ya’ next year” to your classmates because you would see them the next day riding their bikes in the neighborhood.

At Hamden Hall you said “good bye”, and in my case anyway, not knowing what they would be doing in their neighborhoods tomorrow, nor even if they would return in September.

The summer between my 5th and 6th Grade years, the only classmate I saw was Gary Moss.  On weekends we would see each other at the pool of Woodbridge Country Club… swim all day, hit the snack bar, drink iced chocolates, savor hot fudge sundaes… and not think about school.

The ending days of summer were filled with anticipation.  Seeing classmates who you hadn’t seen all summer.  Then, would there be new students?  Who would not be returning?  On day one, you would look forward to the return of familiar faces.  Their absence in our day-to-day lives would have only been slightly noticed in July and August… but now a few short days before the new year the air would be tinged with excitement.

One mid-September day in 1960 Mrs. Bear welcomed to her 6th Grade Class: Sarah Beebe, Charles Clark, Walter Damuck, Emily Evans, Stephen Gant, David Gitlitz, Gary Hopson, Mary-Austin Humphrey, Elizabeth Learned, John Marra, Francine Matas, Carole McDonnell, Cynthia Michel, Duncan Moffit, Gary Moss, Naomi Palkins, Kathy Talalay, Jimmy Winston.

Many lessons in life are only learned in after the fact reflection… or better put, fully appreciated.  At an early age, without knowing it, we acquired a sense for absences.  We learned that folks who we see every day as part of lives, are at times absented for a long time (as summer vacation appears to a 10 year old); but then return to our lives.

We learn that the absences can apply apply to family and friends.  But as we grow older these absences are not just July and August; these absences can span years and decades.  And in those intervening years the special nature of the connections retain the memory of shared times and stories never old.

I am lucky… I hear from and see Gary Moss on a fairly regular basis (although there was a large block of time he lived in Europe when we were out of contact)… but this October I hope to see Chuck Clark, Carole McDonnell, Francine Matas and Kathy Talalay among the other graduates at our 40th High School reunion.

And as for the absence?  Sorta like the summer before entering Ethel Bear’s 6th Grade Class…

It was just a little longer.

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A Small Complaint From Philo Kvetch

Well, here it is… the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year… and I’m pissed!  School is barely out, the summer is just kicking off, the All Star game hasn’t even been played yet and the days are going to begin to shorten.  This stinks!

Perhaps you think I grouse and complain all the time… and I do admit that I let certain things get under my finger nails… like scrambled eggs of improper consistency, or the traffic light at the junction of Route 25 and Route 59… the person who timed that light should be drawn, quartered and roasted on a spit.

But on the whole, I’m an easy going fellow.

However, this pre-mature shortening of the day is a bit un-nerving.  You will be glad to hear that I have been working on a solution.

We already tinker with the nature of the day with Daylight Savings Time.  My idea is just to expand on this formula for “extending our daylight.”

Beginning tonight at midnight we will move our clocks ahead 1 minute.  And we will do this every night for the next 60 days.  1 minute ahead each night.  That way we will diminish the effect of the days being shortened… we will be able to enjoy our later sunsets, more time to cookout or grab an extra swim.

And then when we get to October and move our clocks back to Standard Time, we move our clocks back two hours!!  Two hours to party hardy… and to grab extra winks! Woo hoo!

I know what you’re thinking!  “I get up early in the morning… I like to drive to work and see the rising sun.”  So do I!  A beautiful sunrise is a re-birth.

We could instead move the clocks back 1 minute tonight… and for the next 60 days do the same thing… we can extend our earlier rising sun thru the summer.  And when it comes to October, and all the newspapers put those little graphics on page one with a clock as a reminder to move the clock back, we can say “fuck it!  I don’t have to do anything… let everyone else run around like a nudnik fretting about what to do with an hour!”  And when those talking dummies on the News Shows remind us to move the clocks back, we can say “HAH! I don’t have to pay attention to this crap” and we can turn off the TV and grab a beer.

You can see there are two choices to this shortening of the day dilemma.  We can opt for earlier mornings, or later afternoons… either is preferable to doing nothing.  This is a matter that should be left for each State to decide.  Each State can hold a referendum to decide whether to be a “Sunrise State” or a “Sunset State” and then it will be settled.

Then we’ll make one of those maps that colours the States red and blue the way we did when Bush beat Gore… and everyone will know which State observes Sunrise or Sunset,  See?  Easy.

Remember, it’s not just a matter of complaining.  We have to be responsible for coming up with solutions!

Now that we have that sticky little problem resolved, I can turn my attention to the next project… each State issuing its own currency.  I can see it now — Connecticut can have a $1 with Jim Calhoun on it… and instead of keying the value to gold or the strength of the economy, we can value it to UCONN victories in basketball… Kentucky could value their currency to Bourbon.  You get the idea.

Stay tuned.

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Mave Fabish Brings Down a Ridged Zelbax

There wasn’t a cloud in the blue sky.  The type of blue that you see on a mid-winter’s morning; but seldom see early in the planting season.  The trees were in flower and the ground had a plush consistency.  It was a day when reading a book in the fresh sunlight would have been an ample reward for a week of tending the vines.

Or so one would think.

But it was hardly a day to be off hunting Zelbax… by yourself.  Which is exactly what Mave Fabish had been off doing.

Actually his full title is Maven Fabish… but to pretty much everyone he is called Mave Fabish, or sometimes “the Mave”.  He made full Maven several seasons back.  First he labored as an Assistant, then made Associate, and then he was finally awarded full Maven at Venderbee’s None-Mal of High Study.  Rare for a Maven to come from outside the Study of Vine and Agriculture.

But Mave Fabish stood alone in his pursuit of Antiquities and the manner in which people hunted for food, waged war or in general used weapons.  In the spring and summer seasons he would leave the supervision of his vineyards to the younger staff  in the Department of None-Mal and he would take himself off beyond Steep Rock to Far Steep Rock and Outpost Village… content to spend every waking moment alone, but occasionally with the help of others from the Department, digging, inspecting and uncovering artifacts from eras that existed before the Time of Troubles.

He would say that the Land of Far Steep Rock was sacred… that it held “within its heart every story that could ever be told.”

His field study was not without its dangers… and I am not talking about the weather, which is windy and cold in the spring and brutally hot in the summer. Nor do I refer to the “Wild Bands”… unlawful types from beyond Far Steep Rock, who make occasional raids on land and livestock and who have been known to kill a citizen or two.

No.  The danger came from a variety of carnivorous beasts that treated Far Steep Rock as their home range.  The most feared predator was the Ridged Zelbax.  The Zelbax traced its origins to the common domestic sheep; but it returned to a feral stage at some point before the Time of Troubles, and it retained the lush wool coat of its herbivore “cousin”; but developed oversized razor sharp canine teeth for ripping flesh and jaws strong enough to snap the thigh of an adult human.  The “ridged” referred to the high stance of its shoulders that supported powerful tendons allowing the Zelbax to reach high bursts of speed to bring down prey.  An adult male could measure six feet at the withers and reach a length of fifteen feet from nose to tail.

One summer season the Mave had uncovered fossil remains that he judged went back before the Time of Troubles of an intact Ridged Zelbax and a collection of human bones.  It was clear from the evidence that Zelbax preyed on nearby early human settlements.  And in this case, this Zelbax had taken down what looked like an entire family!

The Mave told me the day he unearthed those bones he promised himself that he was going to kill a Ridged Zelbax before he died… not for its wool, not for the food; but to avenge what this beast had done to that family.

For those of us who know Mave Fabish, the story I am about to relate is at odds with what we know about the man… his peaceful and studious nature.  A nature that is unchanged… whether he is whisking away dust from a fossil, or trimming his Hoolish vines, or relaxing over a cup of Wren Hoolish, or lecturing on the way the Ancient Germans skirted the Maginot Line and swept thru the Ardennes.  Study war?  Yes, most definitely.  But to kill something?  No, never.

But on the day of which I speak, his thoughts were on killing a Ridged Zelbax to settle a score for the fossil remains he discovered years before.

Fabish told me, “… it was time to settle accounts.”

He went well prepared for the adventure.

“Our ancestors would deploy a team of seven hunters.  Four were armed with a centine, a spear 100 inches in length.  They would stand shoulder to shoulder like a giant ‘fork’.  The other members of the hunting party would be responsible for driving the Zelbax into the deadly phalanx of spears.”

I asked the Mave, “did it work?”

“Sometimes the hunters won.  Sometimes the Zelbax won.”

“Well surely you went with more than a centine!”

He sipped some Hoolish.  Thought for a moment… “No.  Over the years Hector and I made some 50 centines!  Each honed to killing perfection.  I wanted to kill a Zelbax the old way… the way our ancestors did.”

“Who else formed your hunting party.”

“No.  Years ago I decide that it would be me.  Me alone.”

“Did you have a death wish?!”

No.  The Mave truly thought that he could do this with no assitance.  His plan was simply to drive the centines into the ground, clustered in the classic “attack four” presentation, spread the blood of a pouflon in the area as bait, then upon sighting a Zelbax to run scared and lure the wooly monster into any of a possible dozen “nested” traps.

“Great idea Fabish!  You must have been drunk to come up with that plan!”

“Yes.  I probably was.  I had barely positioned the first four centines when a damned Zelbax was in on me!  The only thing that stood between that mean son-of-a-bitch and me was a bottle of Hoolish and a sandwich!”

“He went for the sandwich?”

“I wish!  And he didn’t go for the Hoolish either!  He exposed his scary fangs, snarled once, then again… and without delay took a running leap directly into the centines!”

“Are you telling me… are you telling me that the Zelbax… the Zelbax committed suicide?!”

“Yes.”

I sipped my wine and thought about this for a few minutes content for the break in the narrative.  “Well… maybe the beast had a stressful childhood?”

Then the Mave looked this way and that.  Sure that no one was in ear shot, “Look Santie, don’t spill the beans.  I’ve been telling folks at None-Mal that I brought down a Zelbax by myself.  And… you know, some of the ladies are hugely impressed!”

I guess this squared with what we knew about Fabish… a good soul who studied diligently the implements and manner of bringing death to man and animal… yet who couldn’t kill a fly… even if he was starving.

I poured each of us some Hoolish, “Mave Fabish… your secret is safe with me.”

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Rachel’s Day

Rachel announced that this was her favorite holiday!  It being so close to Memorial Day… I figured it was that holiday to which she referred…

But no, she had another day in mind.  “Come on”, she prodded me… “you know… that Jewish Holiday…”

Armed with that hint I was able to dredge up from memory the holiday of Shavuot (as a kid growing up it was called Shavuos… the variant spelling owing to the difference in Ashkenazic — Germany & Eastern Europe — pronounciation and the Sephardic — Spain, the Levant & now Israel itself).  Regardless of pronounciation and spelling… this Holiday is not “front page stuff”, like say Rosh Hashonah, Yom Kippur & Passover.  Dollars to donuts a sizeable majority of American Jews know little of nothing of this Holiday beyond it’s name.

You can mark Rachel’s Day on your calendar: May 24th… or more to the point: the Sixth Day of Sivan.  The day is calculated by measuring seven weeks from the second day of Passover… and the next day is Shavuot (the Feast of Weeks).  Passover marks the liberation of the Hebrew slaves from Pharoah’s yoke and Shavuot marks the Nation of Israel accepting the Torah and committing itself to serving God. 

You wonder about the intervening 49 days.  What was that about?  I figure they should have signed on right after crossing the Red Sea.  “Thank God we’re out of here!”  Something held them back… maybe they were concerned about getting stuck with a whole bunch of rules that made living difficult… things like no bacon, lettuce and tomato sandwiches… and you can’t turn on lights during the sabbath, and you have to memorize a bunch of stuff for your Bar Mitzvah, and the services are far too long… and then real technical things that scholars study, argue and debate about (for thousands of years, I might add) without resolution.  Yes, I can see that it would have given one pause for thought.

I think the instigator for the delay was Dathan, the Hebrew overseer for the Pharoah.  Portrayed by Edward G. Robinson in the film Ten Commandments, he was my favorite character… a poor weasel of a man who would sell his soul for a talent of gold: “I am here, girl, because I would put no fear in a desert god and his mud-pit prophet. I am here because I bowed lower than my brothers before the Egyptians. Now the Egyptians bow low before me. Joshua wanted you. Baka wanted you. But you belong to me, a gift from Rameses.”

Dathan, even if he was ficticious, could stir things up… I can see it… “Do you really want to give up lobster??  Do you really want to fast on Yom Kippur?”  Yes… I think it would take me 49 days to think about it.  Maybe we should have thought about it a little longer… like maybe 4000 years, or at least until Sandy Koufax could have pitched in the World Series.  Well… what’s done is done, and we have Shavuot every 6th of Sivan. 

I don’t ever recall “celebrating” Shavuot when I was growing up… I think it was mentioned once or twice in Sunday School.  The other Jewish Holdiays are more understandable to me.  Feast of Weeks?  “Feast”?  Well… we commemorate the day with an all-night Torah study session.  In Synagogue we read the Book of Ruth.  We eat dairy foods (a good blintz every now and then is a good thing).  We decorate homes and synagogues with greenery.  I don’t know if all this constitutes a “Feast”.  Personally… the “all-night Torah sudy session” would be a deal killer for me.  I didn’t even do that for Erik Hansen’s 20th Century European History Final at Union. 

I can live with blintzes. 

Still, it’s mighty impressive that our Miss Rachel has adoped this day as the highlight of the year.  Impressive, in part, because Rachel was raised as a Catholic.  But it gets a little complicated here… Rachel’s Dad is Jewish… Rachel’s Mom is Catholic.  So I am told… when Rachel was 5 a plate of Manicotti and a plate of Gefilte Fish were put before her and she was asked to choose.  I can understand her choice. 

Yet… here it was… the 6th of Sivan… and she felt the primordal tug.  A tug that goes back 4000 years when Dathan asked, “Do you really want to give up cheeseburgers?”

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