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It felt good to vote. Too bad more of our citizens don’t exercise their right to contribute a voice in determining who is going to represent us in government. People in other lands would give their eye teeth to have an opportunity to vote in an election… any election… even a rigged one!

We complain about our government the way we complain about the weather. But there is a difference. We can do nothing about the weather; but we can do something about our government. And for every person who takes the small step and registers to vote, and then steps into the polling place, in a very important way, that person takes a step in making this a better Country.

It goes beyond being our right to vote. It is our responsibility to vote… to help shape our government.

Perhaps you remember this slogan: “Love our Country, or leave it!” Maybe try this one on for size: “On Election Day, Vote… or pack your bags and move to a place where you can’t!”

That’s enough of that. I’ll surrender the soap box to more articulate and capable voices.

Take a step thru the political hoopla… the barrage of TV commercials, nightly calls from Party ‘foot soldiers’, political junk mail galore… there still exists the beauty of the neighborhood and the town that flowers on Election Day.

I saw this in Norwalk all the years I lived there. And I saw this in Woodbury, where I cast my vote this past Tuesday. First, let me point out… by nature I am a morning person. Always have been. As a morning person I vote as early as possible. If the polls opened at 3:00AM I’d be there. Not to make a statement about being first in line or something. It’s because I like to see the volunteers fresh in their routines… and to enjoy the faces of like minded voters who prefer to get things done early.

I got to Mitchell Elementary School a few minutes before 6:00AM (usually Woodbury votes in Town Hall; but if they expect a big turn out… it moves to Mitchell). I liked that there was less activity around the polling place. In Norwalk there would have been candidates and Party workers handing out stuff, shaking hands and the like… of course this all would take place outside the 25 yards from the polling place required by law (or whatever the distance).

But regardless of the Town (or neighborhood), the volunteers who man the polling station are of a similar stripe. The League of Women Voters (or Brothers of the Ballot) are recruited from the ranks of the retired or soon to be retired.

There is an ease to their appearance that is totally comforting. Men in dark slacks, plaid L.L. Bean shirts… ladies in pants suits and contrasting cardigan sweaters.

Although there is a volunteer’s hospitality table with hot drinks and donuts, they bring, depending on shift, their own thermos bottles of soup or coffee… water bottles and a handful of hard sucking candies. They have a look of pleasant familiarity… their focus is on their civic duty.

Peel back the years, 50 in number say, and they were the ones who worked tireously (and without thanks) on the prom committee. You have the sense that they have been in the Town, or neighborhood, forever… that they know everybody… And if there is a strange Camry parked in front of Missy Stengl’s overnight, they know it. And now you do, too.

I am #6 in line. When I get to the table for Streets “M” to “W” there are two women seated there, and a third woman seated in a table behind. I assume that the two women in front are representatives of the major Parties, and they are there to see that the other Party does not engage in “funny stuff.”

I give my name and address, produce my driver’s license to confirm my identity… my name is located on the computer roster, crossed from the list and one of them says “408”…This is for the benefit of the third lady sitting at the table in back. I don’t know what the hell she is doing… but she so notes it. Nor do I know why I am “408”. Maybe they keep track of Democrats in Woodbury. Anyway, privately I think I deserve a higher number… or a lower number, if that’s better.

Having established that I was who I said I was to the satisfaction of all 3 election officials, I was permitted to enter one of the voting booths. Each booth was supervised by yet another volunteer.

No men are trusted to the tables. Never in all my years of voting have I ever seen a man on the tables. Booth supervisors, yes. Tables, no. Maybe retired men have circulation problems if they remained seated for too long. Or maybe this is a form of cruel gender discrimination… we make the men stand for four hour shifts. Men… or women who we don’t like… Like women who have strange Camry’s parked in front of their houses overnight.

I glance left and right… each guardian taking ownership for his or her booth… each proffering a nod and smile as a voter enters the curtained booth. I vote in good order, and when done I emerge from the booth refreshed and voted.

I am now greeted by my “guardian”… on this occasion it’s a woman (maybe she should tell the Camry to park down the street and then she would get promoted to a table)… she gives me a sticker “I have voted today”.

She gives me a smile. A smile that I treasure. I don’t care who parks in front of her house. I feel good.

I have voted. I feel a part of a community. It ain’t much, and yet it’s a whole lot.

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You Know What They Always Say

I’ve worked both sides of a bar… many a long hour into the night on the working side; but of more recent on the patron side. Spend any amount of time in a bar, on either side, and you hear it all… and if you don’t, just wait ’til the next person with a thirst walks in, and you will…

Tonight finds me on the “50 yard line” of Ash Creek Saloon’s southside… mid-way between Nicole and James (bartenders extraordinaire). The purpose of my visit was to address the unfortunate surplus of Wild Turkey Rye that they had on hand. Since I work just a few doors down, I believe in helping out a neighbor.

The seat to my immediate right was vacant; but this was not for long. I’ve seen this guy walking in… not this guy, rather the type. He was wearing a jacket and tie. And he was wearing a jacket and tie because his work required it and not because he was making a fashion statement (which is a good thing… at Ash Creek we don’t abide folks who put on airs).

It being 9:15PM, this guy probably just wrapped up a dinner meeting and didn’t feel like returning straight away to home. Tie loosened, white shirt no longer crisp, jacket a bit rumpled, hair matted… looks like his appointment just put his feet to the fire.

He was a third of his way thru his Black Label on the rocks when he says to no one in particular, “You know what they always say… ‘take two and hit to right.'” He brings his glass to eye level and makes a self toast.

He takes a good swig of his whisky and then turns to me and asks, “Do you come here often?”

By nature I am polite. On this particular night I was not in the mood for outside camaraderie. I was looking forward to de-compressing from an aggravating day in the “salt mines”, catching some of whatever-game, maybe a grilled wing and scratch out a word or two. Not on my schedule was talking to Elliot. That’s his name. He introduced himself to me after asking whether I came here often.

Even though I offered him no encouragement to conversation he continued, “I’ve lived in Ridgefield for twenty years and didn’t know this place even existed! I was going to head home after a meeting; but I figured that I’d ‘shake off the trail dust’ and let the traffic settle down before I head up Route 7. Route 7, what a pain in the ass that is!” And then, “Well, you know what they always say, ‘Keep your powder dry and save your best shoes for Tuesdays!'”

He raises his glass a bit higher for this occasion.

Great! What traffic? It’s 9:30PM forGodsakes. I scan the bar. Brad is across the way, northside on the goal line defending the east. He is talking to someone… a regular, I just don’t know his name. No open seats to move to. Nicole replenishes my rye. I thank her.

Elliot says, “I wonder if she is a Yankee fan.” The she being Nicole. “It’s a shame we lost this year… I’ve been a fan all my life… I’m telling you it was the rain postponement that cost us…”

He finishes off his Scotch. Maybe he’s here for just one. No luck. He asks James for a second.

“You look like a Yankee fan, too!” he says to me, “And I’ll tell you one thing… if we get off to a slow start in the Spring, George will can Torre’s ass. And I like Joe Torre. Do you like Torre?”

I make a crucial mistake. “Yeah, I do like Joe Torre.” This is true. I think that Torre is a terrific Manager. I just should have kept my mouth shut.

“I knew it! A Yankee fan! You know what they always say, ‘It’s Pin Stripes or Prison Stripes!'”

Oh God… I look at my glass of Rye. I wonder if I can drink in the Men’s Room. I should have said, “James keep my tab open. I’ll be in the john. Wait 15 minutes and bring me another Wild Turkey and an order of plain grilled wings. I’ll be in the stall or standing next to the sink.”

“What are you drinking?” Elliot asks.

“Just whisky.” I should have said a pink squirrel. I should have said, “I love Pink Squirrels, because when you drink a ton of them and get sick drunk, you puke pink… and it’s like Pepto Bismol all over the place.” I always think of good things to say too late.

“Me, too. Johnny Walker Black Label. Joe Namath drinks Johnny Black. But I hate Joe Namath.”

He caught me in a moment of weakness. I respond, “I Hate Joe Namath, too. I hate all the Jets. But Namath the most. The most over-rated QB in NFL history.”

“Yeah. One great game. Do you know that he wore pantyhose for games played in the cold?”

I sip my Rye. “I heard that, too.”

“And why does a guy who’s from Pennsylvania sound like he was a hick from Georgia? Hah! He was a hick from Pennsylvania!”

More Rye. “Nicole… back-up Elliot for me.”

Elliot thanks me for the drink. “I think I hate FDR more than Joe Namath.”

I put my drink down.

“He knew about Pearl Harbor.”

Yeah, this is an old theory. Winston Churchill needed us in the War and FDR was looking for a casus belli. I look at my whisky. I think, “steady Jim… tread carefully… this is how bar fights begin.” I had to break-up a bar fight once. It was over who was the better 49er QB… Joe Montana or Steve Young.

I already deeply regret staking our Elliot to another Black Label. He strikes me as a guy who will slide into hostility as he takes on more whisky. I check the time.

Elliot is just getting warmed-up. “He gave away our Country to welfare cheats and socialism.”

I signal Nicole for my tab.

“Well, Elliot… you know what they always say, in the words of the great 17th Century biblical scholar, Alan Kadansky… and I quote… ‘you never really own a sectional……you are its caretaker for the next generation.'”

I thank James and Nicole for their hospitality. I bid Elliot a good night.

I am reminded of the words of the Great Confucius. In giving advice to the Princes of the Kingdom he said, “A wise leader knows a tactical retreat maybe the best path to ensure an ultimate victory.”

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A Plague On Both Your Houses

Election falls on November 7th this year. For the first time I will be exercising my right as a U.S. citizen to vote in the town of Woodbury. The polling location is in our Town Hall. Town Hall is a simple wood frame construction. It is similar in appearance to the clutch of churches that line the western side of Route 6 in Woodbury.

I have yet to be inside of Town Hall. But I like that at other times of the year, Town Hall is used for art shows, square dancing, blood drives and other selected entertainments.

But come Tuesday morning at 6:00AM, or thereabouts, I will step inside for the first time to cast my vote.

Much attention, much national attention, is focused on our Senatorial race. A race that is featuring two Democrats and a Republican after thought. Ned Lamont, the Democratic standard bearer is locked in a battle with our incumbent Democratic Senator Joe Lieberman, or should I say, locked in a battle again. You see, they already engaged in battle in the primary. A primary battle won by Lamont fair and square.

Usually, we would expect the loser, Joe Lieberman in this case, to graciously accept defeat, shake hands with the winner, and importantly, pledge his support in the upcoming battle against the champion of darkness from the Republican Party.

That’s what you’d expect. But that’s not what happened. You see, Ned Lampont did such a bang up job identifying Joe Lieberman as George Bush’s errand boy that he fooled both the Democrats and the Republicans in our State. Joe Lieberman has rather ungraciously decided to continue to defend his Senate seat from a “neutral” party.

We are now left with the Democratic Party divided against itself and the Republicans happily supporting Joe Lieberman who they have now, ipso facto, adopted as their own. The real Republican candidate, Alan Schlesinger is being treated like the fat kid in 10th grade running for school secretary.

Ya gotta love Connecticut. It should be pointed out that we do have a precedent for this election mish mosh. There was a time when Lowell Weicker lost the confidence of State Republicans and had to carry on as an “Independent.” I had no trouble as a “life long” Democrat switching over to vote for him. I voted for him even before he switched (my way of saying thanks for being the Republican on the Watergate Committee who had the cajones to stick it to Nixon). And I voted for him against Joe Lieberman in our Gubernatorial election.

To be honest. I would vote for Weicker today. Here is a guy who runs for Governor pledging not to put in a State income tax. He gets elected. And within 90 days tells the citizens of the State that he has just had a good look at the “books” and it is obvious that the State needs an income tax. He said that he had been wrong. He had to pursue a course that he felt was for the good of our State, that he would not follow an unwise path merely to get re-elected… further, he had no interest in running for a second term.

Bravo! A guy with cajones, doing something he felt was necessary regardless of whether it was popular,

Well, that’s all well and good. Weicker is not running.

So here it is… we have Joe Lieberman with a smile that is a cross between the Grinch-who-stole-Christmas and the Reverend Robert Schuler. Ned Lamont with Vulcan eyebrows, “mean lines” between his eyes and the worst haircut since Al Sharpton. Or the fat kid from the 10th grade.

I’m not loving my choices here.

But that’s not unusual. I rarely vote for someone I actually like, as opposed to voting for the “lesser of two evils”. But come Tuesday morning, I will take my position in line to exercise my right to vote. I do so with pride.

I suggest you do the same.

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It Ain’t Much, But…

Egyptian Pharaohs were the master immigrants. They spent their entire life planning for their move into the next life. And importantly, what they would bring. After all, this was no small trip. The “here after” takes alot of planning. You have build a suitable site… and then you have to stock it with all sorts of things. After life is a big deal… much bigger say, than moving from Bialystock to Brooklyn.

Let’s not dwell on this part for too long. Pharaohs, Kings and Princes have the luxury of taking a fair amount with them when they move from one place to the next.

The rest of us are not so lucky. When we pick up and move our tents we have to carefully reduce what we have to the essentials . Essential for what they mean, and not necessarily for their economic value.

Look at the pictures of the new arrivals at Ellis Island or Castle Gardens… their lives contained in a few bundles and suitcases… each item carefully selected… each item a link to something that gives definition to their lives.

It doesn’t have to be as dramatic a move from Warshava Gubernia to America… it can be more mundane… 25 Alston Avenue to 71 Woodbury Hill with a half dozen stops in between.

Still, each move choices are made… what to discard, what to keep. And each year, things that we keep increase in sentiment, adding to their personal value.

From my present inventory…

The Blue Chair. The best part of moving across the hall in 1957 from Mommie Soph’s room to Paul’s room was the comfortable “club chair” that was in his tiny study. Thickly upholstered in a black & white houndstooth pattern, you felt obligated to lounge in the chair… to sit with your legs tossed over the side and flopped about. Eventually the chair made its way out of the study and into the bedroom itself… which was good news for Baa Baa and Rocky, our Bedlingtons, who treated the chair as their private fire hydrant.

As a kid I didn’t understand this marking of territory thing that rules the animal world. If I did, I would have peed on that chair, too. I loved the chair, even if it promoted poor posture and it had a earthy fragrance.

Ellen and I had it re-covered in a beautiful deep blue fabric. Gary and I talked about this recently, he remembers the original tweed pattern; but he forgets the yellow tinge at the lifting-of-the-leg height that couldn’t be removed… the blue is better. And it is still the most comfortable chair in the universe… great for reading; but even better for listening to music, or for feeling the sun coming thru a cold window, or for watching the snow fall, or grabbing a snooze.

The Shell Lamp. I think Mom was looking for another excuse to enjoy the sun. If you didn’t know, the “sun worshipping gene” runs deep in our family… very deep. I think Mom just got tired of lying out in the sun… and one day she strolled the beach in back of the Bagshot House in Barbados and began picking up shells that caught her eye. This was merely the beginning. Each year she collected more and more. Fly fishermen look for perfect streams… Mom looked for better places to harvest shells. Someone said that Cayman had great shells. She went.

Then it was Sanibel and Captiva in Florida. She went. This would turn into her “Alaskan oil fields” for shells. And she would spend the part of each winter picking shells until her passing.

In her later years, she was no longer able to take the sun. But there she would be, bent over… patrolling the shore line by the Mucky Duck, a big picture hat, long sleeves and loose fitting slacks, selecting only the best shells.

If she had an idea what to do with these shells when she began this enterprise I can’t say. But the picking of the shells was only stage one. Each night she would take her haul back to her cottage and carefully wash the shells in boiling water. Dried, they would then be ready for a coating of clear nail polish.

When she returned to Connecticut the shells would be displayed in clear jars… each jar containing shells of a similar nature.

I am not sure who came up with idea of adding “crafts” to this activity… but soon Mom was cranking out mirrors framed with shells and glass lamps filled with shells.

Of this I am sure. I can imagine that Mom labored fiercely over the correct selection of each shell… making sure that there were favorite shells in each mirror and lamp.

The barrel bar. When Dad acquired the building on 44th Street, Seymour Landman, one of our suppliers sent over a gift to commemorate the purchase. It was half a barrel on sturdy legs with casters that opened to serve as a bar. Dad never put it into play as a bar… it sat outside the elevator on the Fifth floor acting as a catch-all for crap.

But I had my eye on it for use as it was intended, and at first opportunity I asked Dad for the barrel bar. It had plenty of space for bottles of hootch in the base, then above bottle level there was a railed ledge to hold old fashioned & high ball glasses… the flat top of the bar was hinged so that it opened to create a perfect surface to hold an ice bucket and the other bar accoutrements.

When we built the very fancy shmancy wet bar in the finished basement of 35 Regency, the barrel bar didn’t lose its appeal to me. I treated it like a “fly bridge.” It was still stationed upstairs with the necessary martini making ingredients closer at hand.

I love the stout nature of the barrel… and that the wood holds the aroma of a spilled drop of gin or bourbon. It speaks of shared times and well made drinks.

Brutus. On Dad’s travels to Europe he was sure to pick up various and sundry items that would be good props for our display windows at Chipp. Over the years it became an impressive collection… brass nautical pieces: port and starboard lamps, a ship’s telegraph, block and tackle… and a host of other things… tally desks, campaign tables, regimental drums and several ceramic pieces.

Of the latter, he returned from a trip to Italy with two rather large ceramic busts… Bacchus and Brutus. Paul claimed Bacchus (although it might seem a bit odd since his beverage of choice is a pale ginger ale) and I took Brutus.

Brutus is the larger of the two busts… his head is angled downward toward his right shoulder… you can see his toga draped on his left shoulder… there is a serene expression to his face. No wonder Caesar was caught off guard.

In times past I would dress him in a bowtie. And that’s how you transform a world renown assassin into looking like a waiter.

I have always enjoyed his thick curls. It reminds me of my Dad’s wavy hair.

Pod Chainick. This was a gift for Mommie Soph that I brought back from one of my two visits to the Soviet Union . It is a custom in Eastern Europe to drink tea from a glass. A simple cylindrical glass would fit into a decrative holder with handle… a pod chainick.

The one I brought back was made of brass. Not expensive, nor particularly fancy.

Long before my time, Mommie Soph had made her adjustment to modernity and converted from glass to a China cup. Although she still retained the custom of sipping her tea (or coffee) thru a sugar cube. And it was still referred to a “glass of tea”… or more specifically in her accent and inflection: a glessela tea.

Every time I look at the pod chainick I think of the Winter Palace, St. Basil’s, forests of pine and birch… and Mommie Soph.

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Well, there you go… Hardly the stuff a Pharoah would take into a Pyramid for his trip into the next world.

But it suits me just fine.

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